peace with past

To clean the wound is when we know just how much we’re injured. But isn’t it the most painful part, though; the healing part? I understand just how complex the past can be and it shows in our present lives. It’s so hard to risk of going to the same situation when it had caused you so much pain: to start over a relationship, to break-up with someone, to forget a loved one, being separated, to deal with losses or changes. Sometimes it’s a matter of ‘accepting’ or ‘adjusting’ with things because we have no other choice, isn’t it? Because no matter how hard we do or try or wish with all our might, it happened and there’s nothing we can do about it. The possibility is endless, if we talked about what could have, would have or should have happened.

Moving on—I figure—is easy. Distracting ourselves from what used to be an issue of the past is somehow easy if we’re busy, when our friends are around or when we have something to do at the moment. What’s hard is staying moved on. It’s those meaningful lyrics, one-strike-memories or those flashback-burns that really get to us. People change but your feelings remained. Forgiving is not an instant delete button, where everything will disappear by a single word— ‘sorry.’

Truth is, you had a past, something made you the way you are today. Some people might get it, some people don’t, but I can promise you that there will be a few that understand you and appreciate you for who you are. Pain changes people, you see. But the people who stay in your life will help you go through it. Appreciate these people. People go through hell every day, in their own levels, in their own definitions. Sometimes it gets a little worse before life can get better. Remember, when you’ve been thrown all the way down, the only way you can go left is up. Someone will love you, with all the flaws and cracks that torn you in the past, someone will actually think you’re beautiful. Take pain as the reason you’re a stronger person, pain does make a great teacher in life. Imagine playing a game and you’re playing on the same level until you’re finish, that game would have suck, wouldn’t it? No challenges, no nothing. Remember, you can’t change the direction of the wind, but you can adjust the sail. You can’t change where life takes you, what life has in store for you, but you can always choose how you’re going to respond to it. If life was easy, it would’ve been boring. What’s hard is what makes it great. Make peace with your past, it will do wonders for your future.